The same argument, wearing a different face. The same kind of partner, chosen again. The pull toward someone unavailable - or the urge to pull away the moment things get close.
If you have ever felt like a stranger to your own behavior in love, the reason reaches further back than you think.
Drawing on decades of clinical work and the landmark science of attachment and childhood adversity, Wired by Trauma reveals how the way you were first loved became the blueprint for how you love now - and, crucially, how that blueprint can be rewritten.
In clear, compassionate chapters grounded in research rather than slogans, you will discover:
• Why childhood shapes adult love - and what the science really proves
• The four attachment styles, and how to recognize your own
• Why we return, again and again, to the partners and patterns that hurt us
• The walls we build to survive - and how they quietly keep love out
• Why an ordinary disagreement can go from zero to a hundred, and how to stop it
• The proven path to earned security: rewiring the nervous system, healing through relationship, and becoming the person your childhood didn't get to be
Each chapter ends with a "Reading the Blueprint" reflection to turn insight into change.
Your childhood shaped the way you love. It does not have to be the way you love forever.
For readers of The Body Keeps the Score, Attached, and Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.
